What the Weeks After a Miscarriage were Really Like
The miscarriage itself is often treated as the ending of the story. Its the loss, the appointment, the confirmation. And then in the eyes of the outside world, it’s over. But for the person living it, the miscarriage is only the beginning of something else entirely.
Analysis Paralysis
Selecting a sperm donor can be one of the most exciting and overwhelming parts of the fertility journey. With so many considerations to weigh, from values to physical traits to practical logistics, it’s easy to feel stuck in indecision.
What do you Really Value in a Donor?
Moving past decision fatigue to making one of the most personal decisions of your fertility journey.
How Common are Miscarriages
Understanding early miscarriage through real experience — what hCG changes mean, what to expect, and how to navigate the first days after.
How to Talk About Fertility
There are few things more disorienting than going through something big, life-changing, and often invisible while the people around us carry on like everything is normal. How do we talk about something so personal and emotional?
Caring for Yourself through the Treatments
This heartfelt reflection shares how to navigate the emotional challenges of fertility treatment through self-care, spiritual practice, and daily positive rituals. It offers honest insights on setting boundaries, embracing imperfection, and finding strength when pursuing IUI or other fertility treatments.
Surviving the 14 Day Wait
You’ve done the injections. You’ve made it through the appointments, the ultrasounds, the awkwardly timed conversations. You showed up physically, emotionally, and probably on little sleep for the insemination itself. And now? You wait. The doing is over. The outcome is unknown. And for many of us, the only thing louder than the silence is the endless chatter of our thoughts including self-doubt.
How to Support a Friend in Fertility
When I decided to start IUI as a solo parent by choice, I knew it would be complex and demanding. What I didn’t realize was just how isolating it could feel even with a circle of friends and family who wanted to help. If someone you care about is going through IUI, know this: you don’t need to have the perfect words or solutions.
Navigating When IUI Fails
When fertility treatments don’t lead to the outcome you hoped for, the disappointment can feel overwhelming and deeply personal. Here we explore the emotional impact of IUI failure, why it can happen, and how to begin healing while considering your next steps.
Why Choose Solo-Parenting
I didn’t grow up imagining I’d become a mom on my own. Like a lot of people, I had a picture in my mind: I’d fall in love, settle into a relationship, and eventually start a family. And so, after a lot of quiet reflection and spreadsheets I chose to move forward and this is what that journey looked like for me, including what it is still teaching me.
Rewriting Your Fertility Story
If you had asked me five years ago how I thought I’d build my family, I would have told you a very specific story. A partner. A house. A secure job. The “right” timing. But life had other plans. Here’s what I’ve learned about embracing a new version of your fertility story.
7 Fertility Myths to Stop Believing
Whether you’re thinking about starting a family or deep in the trenches of trying to conceive, chances are you’ve encountered fertility advice from well-meaning friends, family, or strangers.
Unfortunately, sometimes this advice is based on outdated beliefs that can add unnecessary stress and even delay getting the help you need. Let’s confront the 7 of the most common fertility myths so you can feel more empowered and informed on your journey.
Can Stress Really Make You Infertile?
Stress alone doesn’t directly “shut down” fertility in most people. However, chronic stress can influence hormone balance, menstrual regularity, and lifestyle habits and those can impact your chances of conceiving. By understanding this complex relationship, you feel empowered to support your well-being without feeling guilty or blaming yourself for your emotions.
Understanding IUI, IVI, and ICI
When you decide to grow your family with the help of a fertility clinic, one of the first decisions you’ll face is how the sperm will be placed in the body. That might sound simple, but there’s a lot of nuance to take into consideration. Each method has pros, cons, and best-use scenarios. Understanding them can empower you to advocate for your needs including whether you’re working with a doctor, midwife, or trying at home.
Trying Again After a Failed Cycle
There’s a very particular kind of heartbreak that comes after a failed fertility cycle. For me, it lives between grief and “not yet” and “what if never.” It is quiet and lonely, but also layered with logistics: cancelling appointments, checking your bank account, deciding whether or not you have the energy or the heart to try again. This is the part of the fertility journey few people talk about. The moment you realize it may not work. And now, you have to ask yourself: Can I do this again?
Navigating Treatment While Living a Full Life
For the CEOs, solo moms, and women doing it all — this journey counts, even when it’s messy.
There’s a common image that comes to mind when people think of someone going through fertility treatments: quiet mornings, cleared calendars, uninterrupted time to focus on health, rest, and self-care.
But for most of us, well, that’s not the reality. Whether you’re running a business, leading a team, or managing a household, the truth is: this process doesn’t wait for the “perfect timing.” And neither should we.
Choosing to Be the Only Parent: A Look at Solo Mom Strength
Choosing to be the only parent is one of the most radical, life-affirming acts of love. It’s also one of the most misunderstood.
I’ve sat with the questions that come late at night: Am I enough? Will my child feel the absence of someone I chose not to include? What does family look like when it starts with just me?
And I’ve also learned the answers and trust me, they are not perfect ones, but real ones. Ones built from love, planning, intention, and the deep knowing that family doesn’t have to follow a template to be whole.
Timing Doesn’t Have to Be Anxiety: Navigating Your Fertility with Ease
When you're trying to conceive, especially as a solo mom by choice, the phrase "timing is everything" starts to feel less like a helpful guide and more like a looming deadline. But I want you to know: your fertility window doesn’t have to feel like a pressure cooker. It can become a space of gentle awareness, informed action, and trust in your body, in the process, and in your ability to handle whatever comes next.
“Fertility Meds Made Me Feel ____”: Real Talk About Hormonal Impact
I wish more people talked about this part. So let’s talk about it. All of it. The brain fog. The unexpected tears. The rage. The numbness. The tenderness in your belly and in your heart. This is your space to feel seen — without judgment, without sugarcoating, and without shame.
Planning for Maternity Leave Without a Partner’s Income
When I decided to grow my family on my own, I knew that I was stepping into a unique kind of strength… one that would stretch me emotionally, physically, and yes, financially. Fertility treatments are expensive, but there’s another financial reality that quietly weighs on many solo parents by choice: planning for maternity leave without a partner’s income to fall back on.
You Don’t Have to Do This Alone: How Fertility Support Groups Help
Trying to conceive can feel like stepping onto an emotional rollercoaster that no one else around you is riding. Fertility support groups whether online or in person offer a deeply validating space to be witnessed, understood, and lifted by people who get it. They won't flinch at your medical lingo, your conflicting feelings, or your breakdown in the parking lot after your fertility clinic appointment.
Navigating Financial Anxiety During Fertility Treatments
There is a silent cost to fertility treatments that often goes unspoken. For those of us walking this road, especially as solo parents by choice, this process doesn’t always come cheap. But neither does the emotional toll of navigating finances while longing for a child.
Here’s what I’ve learned about balancing the high cost of fertility with the even higher cost of not trying and how to hold onto your health and purpose in the process.
Unexpected Moments of Gratitude During Fertility Treatment
Although gratitude is always present in my life, it was not the first thought or emotion that came to mind during my first cycle. Instead my conscious thoughts were hope, fear, worry, and hormonal exhaustion. What I did not expect was that my second cycle would show me something different. I found this time around gratitude kept showing up… not in a sweeping, life changing way, but in the small moments.
About Me
Born from my fertility journey, this space strives to fill the emotional gap the internet lacks - the human experience of trying, hoping, and becoming. You’re not alone here.
